DCJ on January 19th, 2016


(Boo, our Maine Coon cat, in picture:)

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning” (James 1:17 KJV).

I truly believe God makes good and perfect marriages, if you let Him.

Louis and I have been married a year and two months now.  Life has been good to us.  We know for sure more than ever now that God brought us together.  I couldn’t have found a more suitable mate all by myself in a thousand years!  We think alike, we believe in the Lord alike — we pray together all times of the day! — we know the songs we sing.  One of us will start singing a song, and the other one will pick it up.  Sometimes we know the words, sometime we don’t.  We both play the piano, although Louis says I don’t play often enough.  Life is busy!

When people suggest something we can do “to give us something to do,” I laugh, because neither of us think there are enough hours in the day to do what we want to do and need to do.  Louis still works in his office with his insurance brokerage, I am always busy with house chores, washing, cooking.

Something I told Louis just this morning — that I used to worry if I got married again about having to cook, because when I became a widow, I did not cook much for myself.  And I remember dreaming about having a man in the kitchen helping me, and that is what Louis does.  He helps me cook, then shoos me out of the kitchen while he cleans up!!  God is so good.

I love to read while Louis is in his office, and I love to work jigsaw puzzles on my iPad while we watch TV.  Lately I’ve been wanting a sewing machine again. (I left my Kenmore in Florida when I sold the mobile home after Bobby died in 2005.  I had had that sewing machine since 1958!)  I have Mother’s new Singer machine downstairs that is in a cabinet.  The trick is where to put it!  Also, I’ll have to find a Singer store where I

Louis & Bette, Dec. 27, 2015

Louis & Bette, Dec. 27, 2015

can take lessons to learn how to thread it and sew on it!  I remember Mother took lessons when she bought it in the 1990’s.

I bought a little Singer hand sewing contraption.  But all you can do with it is sew a seam, which is what I usually need to do to repair or alter a garment.  If I had the sewing machine up and running, I could make pillow covers and ….. ??  Not to mention altering something.

We love our pets — our babies, although they are all getting old, like Louis and me! It’s hard to believe I will be 80 years old March 1st!  And Louis will be 86 in May.  I tell him, when he says how tired he gets, to be thankful that he can do as much as he does.  He takes the dogs out, cleans the cat litter box, goes up and down the stairs to his office and back.  He’s always doing something.  And still driving!  It’s nice to have a chauffeur!

Our pets include two ShiTzu dogs: Chanel and Patzi, and three cats: Micky, Buddy, and Boo (our Maine Coon cat, whose picture is above).  They are an ever present source of fun and joy to us.  True companions.  You can usually find three or four of them on the bed with us!IMG_1578

Life is good, and we are truly thankful that the Lord brought us together.  It is an amazing gift that we are still awed about.  I like the New Living Translation’s rendition of Jame 1:17: “Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens.  He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.”  He even makes good and perfect marriages.

~Bette Yates Hammond~


Chanel, our Apricot ShiTzu, in picture.  She is 14 years old, and still beautiful!




Buddy, Micky, & Boo

Buddy, Micky, & Boo

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DCJ on August 8th, 2015

Walking With Christ

by Bette Yates Hammond

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.  And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God” (Rom. 12:1,2 KJV).

I like how the NIV translates verse 2: “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Father, I come to you this morning and dedicate my life to You anew. All that I am, all that I have, all that I want and desire, I give to You, Lord.

I want above all else, Father, to please You. To love You, adore You, worship You, praise You. I thank You for all my blessings – for all You have done for me.

You gave Your only Son to come to earth to live as a man in a body like mine. He gave His body as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, to die a horrible death on a cross. He did it for me. He bore my sin – all my weakness, all my failings, all my sickness, all my shortcomings – on that awful cross.

Then Romans says that we were “buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life” (v. 4 NIV). That is awesome! Verse 6 continues: “For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with that we should no longer be slaves to sin – because anyone who has died has been set free from sin” (Rom. 6-7 NIV).

And this comes from believing in Christ, and worshiping Him by giving our lives to Him, being transformed by renewing our minds with the Word of God.

~ Bette


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DCJ on April 30th, 2015

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”  (Genesis 2:18).

Louis Hammond and Bette Yates’s wedding was Saturday, November 8, 2014, at River of Life Family Church in Alton, Illinois. My dear friend, Phyllis Stevens, became my coordinator and maid of honor; and her husband, Larry, was one of Louis’s groomsmen, as was Louis’s grandson, Ryan Carr, and his best man was Ryan’s father, Jonathan Carr. My two bride’s maids were Barbara Church and Mary Kay Johnston. My great-granddaughter, Cheyann Higgins, was the flower girl. Her mother, Amber Higgins, who is also my granddaughter, made the flowers. My daughter-in-law, Sherri, decorated the tables for our reception.  All our children and grandchildren who lived near us helped with the wedding, some with serving, some with ushering, some with parking, and all helped with cleanup.

My oldest son, Steve Yates, gave me away. I wore a long ivory white gown with pearls and sequins all over it. It had long sleeves to hide my wrinkles! At my throat I wore the diamond heart that my first husband Bobby had given me, in memory of him, and Louis bought the gold chain for it.

Chanel and Patzi

Chanel and Patzi

Both our Shih Tzu dogs were in the wedding.  Louis’s daughter, Tara Carr, and my granddaughter, Danielle Yates, carried Chanel and Patzi onstage.  Pastor Fred Church pronounced them “sisters.”  And he pronounced Louis and me “Papa and “Mama.”  The audience loved it, and it was a highlight of the ceremony.

The colors for the wedding were fall colors. It was a beautiful, moving ceremony. Pastor Fred officiated. Christina McGuiggan played the piano, and accompanied Louis and me as we sang “My Darling, My Darling,” to each other.  My grandson, Ryan Yates, played the guitar.  At the end of the ceremony, he prayed a beautiful prayer over Louis and me. I heard later that some of the women in our families cried during the ceremony, and my daughter-in-law, Sherri, said it was the most beautiful wedding she had ever attended.

After a reception in the church’s coffee shop, Louis and I changed into our street clothes, and after tears and hugs from everyone, we drove to Pere Marquette Lodge just outside of Grafton, Illinois. We had two wonderful, restful days there. Then on Monday we drove to Branson, Missouri, where we had four fun-filled days.

IMG_0451 - Version 2My group at Melaleuca paid for our shows as their gift to us! We saw, “Jonah and the Whale” at Sight and Sound Theater, “The Irish Tenors,” “Six,” and “Country Jubilee.” We met so many nice Christian people, senior couples, and singles. Everybody was happy, friendly, and having fun. We enjoyed the Hard Luck Cafe, where the waiters and waitresses sang to us. We bought three of our waiter’s CD’s.  The picture at the right was taken by our waiter.

Now that we are back from our honeymoon — which hasn’t ended, by the way — we are still traveling back and forth between the farm in Illinois and his house in Troy, Missouri.

Louis is an insurance broker working online out of our home.  Right after Christmas, he moved his office to my farm, and we live there. His house and some furniture are up for sale.  We ask for prayer for the sale of Louis’s house to the right persons at the right time for the right price, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We still believe God orchestrated our meeting and our getting together in marriage. We are a happy team.  We realize we are very fortunate and blessed by the Lord.  People tell us all the time they are blessed by our marriage.  We know God has a plan in putting us together, and we will try to walk in that plan all the days of our lives.

~ Louis and Bette Yates Hammond

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DCJ on April 29th, 2015

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33).

This has been quite a year of change. For the better…

Bette: I had made up my mind that I would be single the rest of my life. I believed this was God’s will for me. It had been nine years since my husband Bobby Yates had died. Yet I had a desire for companionship that persisted. Then early this year that yearning in my heart grew stronger. I prayed that if it was God’s best plan for me that He would send my Mr. Right to me at the right time in the right way.

In June I joined a Connect Group class at my church in Alton, Illinois, that was teaching the ins and outs of online dating, led by my friends Larry and Phyllis Stevens. I would never have joined an online dating site if it had not been for the guidance and monitoring of this class. They taught us which sites to go on, how to write a good, honest profile, and keep our lives private and protected. We never gave our real names.  My online name was “King’s Daughter,”  They taught us the do’s and don’ts and warned us of the dangers and pit falls — for there are predators out there.

I met some nice men online; several were retired ministers. We used the site’s email service to write letters, and Larry and Phyllis monitored our letters. But also, among hundreds of profiles, I found a lot of frogs before I met my prince.

Then one day I saw a picture of a nice gentleman, dressed in a suit and tie, standing beside a baby grand piano, and I said to myself, “I’d like to get to know this man.” I was impressed by his profile; he went by the name of “Hammond 9.”  I sent him a note and said I liked his picture. He answered me back with the words to a familiar Christian song, and soon we were emailing each other back and forth. Only after we had built up trust in each other could we reveal our real names to each other.  Bette Yates and Louis Hammond.  We learned each other’s history, shared pictures, and shared our hearts and dreams. We soon realized we were a match.


IMG_1400 - Version 3Louis: When my wife, Doris, passed away, I was devastated and very lonely. After almost two years of grieving, I put my picture and my profile online. After a few days I saw this beautiful lady with an exceptional smile and big brown eyes. Then I read her profile. It was an amazing story of a lady who loved her Lord and church, played the piano and sang gospel hymns. I looked at myself and said to me, “We have the same values and the same musical church background. I would like to meet that girl.” I was so fortunate that she saw my text to her and she responded. Our first meeting occurred a week or so later. Her words in this article describe so well how our feelings for each other grew and grew.


Bette: The online emails progressed to personal emails, then cell phone calls. We were spending a lot of time on the phone, some of it singing. We met at Applebee’s for the first meeting, and the second meeting was at my church for Sunday service.  After church we met for dinner at Castelli’s Restaurant to meet my son Kenny and his family.  Later we had several meals with my son Steve and his wife Sherri.

Louis lived in Troy, Missouri; I was in the country in Illinois, and it was an hour and a half for us to drive to meet. On our third date we decided to meet halfway at Saint Charles, Missouri. After lunch we stopped at a fair on the Missouri River, walked around and rode the merry go round and the ferris wheel. At the top of the ferris wheel he kissed me. That was it….

One weekend Phyllis and Larry and I spent the night at his house in Troy and attended his church Sunday morning where he played a medley of songs on the piano. Phyllis and Larry became good friends with Louis, and I was growing in my respect and admiration of him.

Soon after that Louis and I realized we wanted to be together — we were spending so much time and gas driving back and forth. We both realized that God had had such a huge part in orchestrating our meeting and weaving our lives together. We had so much in common. We both loved music, knew and sang the same songs, both played the piano, each had a Shih Tzu dog. I had two cats; he had a Maine Coon cat. We both loved the Lord and had the same faith. So we became engaged and started planning a wedding.

When we put God first in our lives and follow His will and want only His plan for our lives, then He can do some marvelous things, even bring us love the second time around.      ~ Louis and Bette (Yates) HammondIMG_0412 - Version 2


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DCJ on November 3rd, 2014

There’s going to be a wedding!  I am marrying Louis Hammond from Troy, Missouri.  The ceremony takes place Saturday, November 8, 2014, at 11:00 a.m. at River of Life Family Church on Fosterburg Road in Alton, Illinois.

It’s a new beginning!  In the picture on the right on the piano, Louis is proposing to me again in Pastor Fred Church’s office.  (Pastor Fred took the picture.)  In the bottom picture Louis is putting the engagement ring on my finger.  Standing by is Tom Elliott, who sold Louis the ring.

~ Bette Yates ~




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DCJ on August 13th, 2014

“Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits … Who heals all your diseases” (Psalm 103:2, 3b NKJV).    “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye” (Psalm 32:8 NKJV).

I believe the Lord warns us against foods and substances that are harmful for us, and I also believe He leads us to use healthy products that contribute to our overall health and well-being.  I want to tell you about several products that have helped me and my dog, Patzi.

My Gums Are Healed!

I just came home from having my teeth cleaned at the dentist.  I have had periodontal disease of the gums for several years.  I am supposed to wear “trays”, that fit my teeth and hold medicine, for fifteen minutes daily.  I have been lax about doing it this year, and don’t put them in every day.  Yet, I have been using the dental products the catalogue shopping company I’m enrolled in makes — the toothpaste, mouth wash, and chewing gum — daily.  They each have the same ingredient that is very healing.  I have been using them for over a year.

My hygienist who cleans my teeth knows I have been using these products, and she’s been watching to see the results.  Each time I’ve gone to have my teeth cleaned, my gums have been a little bit better.  “I will be interested to see if you have any improvement,” she told me last fall.

Today after cleaning my teeth, she said, “Are you still using those products?”  When I answered, “Yes,” she said,  “Your gums are healthy and pink.  There was very little bleeding.  And the numbers when I tested your gums are all in the normal range.”

“That’s marvelous!” I exclaimed.

“Remember, how, when you used to come in here, there was a lot of bleeding, and your gums were inflamed, and you had a lot of plaque?  You hardly have any plaque at all now.”

“Yes,” I answered, “and it hurt to get my teeth cleaned.  Now it was just a little unpleasant.”  And I grinned.

We were both amazed.  I had not expected such a good report.  I gave her a stack of my business cards, and she is going to tell her patients about the products and give them my card.

If you are interested and want to know more, send me a comment.

100_1412 - Patzi 2Treats for Patzi

Does your aging dog have aches and pains in his/her hips and joints?  Is she less active because movement is painful?

I give my dog, Patzi, special treats made with a special formula designed to relieve joint pain and improve movement.  These treats are made with the same formula that are found in a supplement many of our customers take for joint pain and inflammation.  These treats and supplements are made by the same company that makes the dental products that I use.

Patzi, a Shih Tzu, will soon be nine years old.  I have started giving her the treats now before she has trouble — as a preventative.  She loves them, and begs for more, and I have to resist giving her more than her daily intake!  The company also makes another treat made especially for her skin and coat.  She is beautiful, and her coat shines!

I can show you how you can get these wonderful products wholesale.  If you want to contact me, send me a comment.


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by Bette Yates

“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.  He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: He leadeth me beside the still waters”  (Psalm 23:1,2 KJV).

We are not to be anxious about what we eat or drink or where we will get our clothes, but more and more we are becoming concerned about the chemicals and additives that are in the food we eat, what we clean our homes with, brush our teeth, bathe, launder our clothes with, and put on our skin and face and hair.

Then there are the pesticides used to fumigate our homes and the aerosols we spray our bathrooms with.  And as far as warning labels — are they telling us all the ingredients?

Most of us have many products in our homes, basements, and garages that have harmful chemicals  in them. These chemicals are causing all kinds of health problems to crop up — asthma, COPD, sensitivity to chemicals, cancer, etc., not to mention the danger of inhaling, swallowing, or burns to the skin and eyes that might occur in an accidental spill.

When these toxic chemicals are inhaled or absorbed into our skin and bodies, our immune systems are being harmed, sometimes for years.  The dangers can and do cause untold heartache and expense from emergency room treatment when a small child swallows just one of these harmful products.

100_2226-2In my case, I was having more and more trouble with asthma and breathlessness right in my own home.  A year ago, when I was introduced to the wellness company I became associated with, I converted my whole house to their products.  Household cleaners, soaps, laundry products, and eventually makeup and facial creams, including suntan lotion.

I also took their vitamins, and still do, because wellness starts inside out.

What amazed me was, that in a short time I was no longer having trouble breathing in my home.  The only time I was breathless was caused by exertion — up and down the stairs several times, or rushing too much.  Over the course of a year, my doctors say I’m in good shape, and “Whatever you’re doing, keep on doing,”  The asthma has virtually gone away.  Plus, I’ve lost 15 pounds I needed to lose, with the nutritious snacks.

So yes, it’s made me a believer.  I have been able change my lifestyle and eating habits, and watch what products I bring into my home.  I have found products that offer  healthier solutions for my body, my home, and the environment.

“He restoreth my soul: He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.  Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff they comfort me.  Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: Thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.  Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever (Psalm 23:3-6 KJV).

I trust in the Lord to take care of me, and I thank Him for guiding me into choosing wise natural products for my home and personal use to keep me healthy.  Let’s all live green and healthy by going back to nature as much as we can.  It’s a new day!

Send me a comment if you are interested.

~ Bette Yates

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DCJ on March 12th, 2014

The most important part of my time with the Lord, is in prayer and communion with Him, asking Him what is His plan for my day — what is His agenda?.

And in that day you will say: “O Lord, I will praise You; Though You were angry with me, Your anger is turned away, and You comfort me.  Behold, God is my salvation, I will trust and not be afraid; ‘For YAH, the LORD, is my strength and song; He also has become my salvation.'” (Isaiah 12:1-2, NKJV).

Hello Dear Readers,

I have to apologize for not writing in a long while.  I got busy with other things.  I enrolled in a wellness catalogue shopping company and have been going to meetings to learn the business.

I was snowed in for several weeks and read a lot — my Bible, Christian books, and Christian novels.  I get snowed in more than people in town because I live in the country down a quarter mile gravel road that gets snow drifts when the wind blows across it.  And when the temperature dropped to around zero, I had no desire to leave home!  I preferred to snuggle up under fuzzy throws on my couch and read, while staying warm from my electric fireplace.

Some of the Books I Read

My favorite Christian novel authors are Karen Kingsbury and Debbie MaComber.  Among the Christian non-fiction authors I like are Charles Kapps, Cindy Trimm, Glenn Clark, John MacArthur, and Mark Batterson.  Dr. David Yonggi Cho’s Fourth Dimension, is awesome!  I usually am reading several books at a time.  I recently read The Harbinger, by Johathan Cahn.  That was an eye-opener!

I am especially inspired by Henry Blackaby’s books.  He and his son Richard authored the Experiencing God book and workbook.  Last fall I was co-leader in a class at church that taught that Bible Study.  I’ve gone through the workbook twice, have read the book three times, and listen to the audio version of it when I go to bed at night.  And I have several of his eBooks.

My Early Morning Devotional Time

I have a routine when I read early in the morning.  I like to arise before dawn and read in semi-darkness with only the glow of my electric fireplace as the only light source.  Of course, that means I am reading eBooks in my Kindle, which is an App in my iPad.  I read with the Black background, until the sun starts streaming through my windows, when I switch to a Sepia background.

At this time I am reading daily: Experiencing God Day by Day, a devotional book by Henry and Richard Blackaby; then Jesus Calling, a daily devotional book by Sarah Young.

After those daily devotional books, I turn to my Bible Study.  I’ve just completed the New Testament in the MacArthur Study Bible (in the NKJV — New King’s James Version), while reading John MacArthur’s commentaries for each chapter.  After finishing the last chapter in Revelation, I wanted to read the prophecies in the Bible, so I started Isaiah.   I’m in Chapter 12 today.

After reading John’s commentary, I turn to my Holman’s Christian Study Bible (also an eBook in my iPad library), and read their commentary.  Sometimes, if I need more understanding of what the Scriptures are saying to me, I will turn to the New Living Translation, the NIV, or The Message for more clarity.  The English Standard Version of the Bible is, in my opinion, the most accurate.  These versions of the Bible are in the Olive Tree Library, also an App in my iPad.

I am very grateful for the new technology in giving us eBooks where I can adjust the light background and the size of the letters.  With my age (I just turned 78!) my eyes are rebelling against small print in books and magazines!  I am finding myself relying more and more on the comfort of eBooks in my iPad.

Be Still Before the Lord

Lest I forget, the most important part of my time in the morning with the Lord, is in prayer and communion with Him.  Sometimes with my reading, I forget to be still and turn to Him for clarity and to know what He is trying to say to me.

And if I sleep late and get busy too soon with my household chores and to-do lists without spending time with God, my day is shot!  I desperately need that time in the quiet with him, being still and listening to what He might say to me before turning to my to-do lists.  And now, I ask Him what is His plan for my day — His agenda.  I want to say, “Lord, what is Your will?” and then to follow it throughout my day.

I’ll try to write more.  Maybe I’ll comment on what I’m reading — in the Word and in books.

Therefore with joy you will draw water From the wells of salvation.  And in that day you will say: “Praise the LORD, call upon His name; Declare His deeds among the peoples, Make mention that His name is exalted.  Sing to the LORD, For He has done excellent things; This is known in all the earth.  Cry out and shout, O inhabitant of Zion, For great is the Holy One of Israel in your midst!” (Isaiah 12:3-6 NKJV).

May His Name be praised!  And may the Lord bless you and give you a good day.


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DCJ on November 29th, 2013

It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord, and to sing praises unto Thy name, O Most High: To shed forth Thy lovingkindness in the morning, and Thy faithfulness every night….(Psalm 92:1,2 KJV).

If my husband, Bobby Yates, had lived, today would be our 60th anniversary.  I am thankful for the 52 years we did have.

I have a lot to be thankful for: a wonderful family, warm and comfortable home, good food, a great church where I have friends and fellowship, and where I can worship my Lord and Savior.  I am thankful that I live in a country where I can be free, come and go as I wish, and worship as I want to.

Most of all, I am thankful for my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, to Whom I owe my life and salvation.  To His Name be glory and praise forever and ever.  Amen.



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DCJ on September 27th, 2013

by Bette Yates


Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you (I Peter 5:7 KJV).


The Bible says that God loves us beyond all measure — all that we can ever understand or think.  Peter said in I Peter 5:7 to cast all our burdens, fears, worries, concerns, loads that are too big for us — to cast all these cares on Him, for He cares for us.

These could be areas of our lives where we feel or are really helpless, overwhelmed, inadequate.  Areas where we are not feeling well physically, where we have pains and physical symptoms that keep us uncomfortable, and keep us from doing what we have planned for the day, because we don’t feel like doing them!

Most of the newer translations use the word “anxieties” rather than “cares.”  But I like the way the NLT puts this verse: “Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.”

So today, dear Father, I cast my worries and cares and anxieties on You.  I cast my physical weakness and symptoms on You, my financial worries, my inadequacies — all these things I cast on You, dear Lord.

I also give You my plans this day and my agenda.  I turn it all over to You, and ask You, Lord, what are Your plans for me today?  I want Your agenda for today.  I want to do Your will and let You work through me.

I ask You for strength and healing, guidance and provision.  Please meet all my needs, Lord. Isaiah says “We have left God’s paths to follow our own” (Isaiah 53:6 NLT) — our own plan.  I want to follow Your plan, dear Lord.  Help me, Holy Spirit, to do this.  And help me to realize God’s great love and care for me.  In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows; yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed (Isaiah 53:4-5 KJV).

May you cast your worries and cares upon Him today, and follow His path, not your own, and receive His strength, healing, guidance, and provision.  And remember He loves you and cares for you.  Have a good day!


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